What Every Man (and his Spouse) Should Know About Prostate Cancer

Every woman knows about Breast Cancer and the life-changing impact it has on their lives. They know because it has gotten enormous public exposure and support needed to spread the awareness to all women, starting at an early age.

Yet, if you ask most men how much they know about Prostate Cancer, they know very little. They may say they know a relative or friend that had it; and they know it’s mostly old men that get it; and it’s the good cancer because you won’t die from it.

Well, wake up men – you have a lot to learn.

First some statistics for you:

  • Prostate Cancer is the 2nd leading cause of cancer death in American men.
  • About 1 man in 39 will die of Prostate Cancer.
  • Other than skin cancer, Prostate Cancer is the most common cancer in American men.
  • American Cancer Society’s estimates for 2016:
    • Approximately 180,890 new cases of Prostate Cancer
    • Approximately 26,120 deaths from Prostate Cancer
  • About 1 man in 7 will be diagnosed with Prostate Cancer during his lifetime.
  • About 6 cases in 10 are diagnosed in men aged 65 or older, and it is rare before age 40.

It is unknown what causes Prostate Cancer and there is no sure way to prevent it. But according to the American Cancer Society there are some things you can do that might lower your risk of Prostate Cancer, such as staying at a healthy weight, being physically active, and eating a wide variety of vegetables and fruits each day.

Screening can often find Prostate Cancer before any symptoms arise. When you are close to turning forty years of age, during your annual physical, your primary care doctor should start testing the amount of prostate-specific antigen (PSA) in your blood and performing a digital rectal exam (DRE), in which the doctor puts a gloved, lubricated finger into the rectum to feel the prostate gland. If either of these test results are abnormal, you will probably be referred to a Urologist for further testing for Prostate Cancer.

From a personal perspective…

Every man that has been diagnosed with Prostate Cancer can remember that day when the Urologist says your PSA is up and/or he feels something on your prostate. The doctor says it is probably cancer, and needs to do a biopsy to confirm. The doctor then gives the standard lecture about if you have to have cancer, this is the one to have; it is usually not aggressive and it is slow growing; almost all men will have it and will die with it – not because of it. You will probably die of something else. So you walk away from the visit thinking – Good news, Bad news. Bad news is you probably have Prostate Cancer. Good news is if you have cancer, this is the one to have.

The follow up consult after the biopsy results are available will determine how you will live the rest of your life. If the news is good, the nurse will usually call with the results and set a date in the future to come back for a checkup. If it is bad news they will call, tell you it is cancerous, and tell you to bring your spouse with you to consult with the doctor and discuss options. You now know that you have Prostate Cancer. A dark day indeed.

During the consult the doctor will explain how many of the biopsies were cancerous, and what level they are (Gleason score). The Gleason grading system is used to help evaluate the prognosis using samples from the prostate biopsy. Together with other factors, it is assimilated into a strategy of Prostate Cancer staging which predicts prognosis and helps guide therapy. Cancers with a higher Gleason score are more aggressive and have a worse prognosis. Your journey with Prostate Cancer has started.

If you have a low Gleason score, etc., the doctor will explain there are a lot of options to consider with a positive prognosis for a long life. However, if you have a high Gleason score, etc., meaning the cancer is aggressive, the doctor will explain that you are past the point of utilizing most of the options and will explain which options are available to you. You now know you have a cancer that can kill you if you don’t do something radical — now. This is when you have to make a life-changing decision, thus the reason for your spouse being with you. This is probably the darkest day in your life to-date.

May 20, 2011 was my darkest day. My five-year journey with cancer has been a roller-coaster of treatments, drugs, and emotions. However, I have surpassed the five-year life expectancy which most doctors base their predictions on and I will continue the fight with the next treatment or drug available, whatever it takes to defeat this beast called Cancer.

Guys, don’t take a chance. Get screened for Prostate Cancer.

It may save your life!


Until someone close to you has been diagnosed with cancer, you will not know, nor understand, the impact that cancer has on that person and their family. Their life is now lived in short snippets of time. Every treatment or drug is meant to extend their life a number months, maybe years. Even if the cancer is proclaimed to be in remission, they continue to live with the fears of it returning.

**During my journey with Prostate Cancer I have been keeping a journal. I have been working on putting it in book format, with the hope of publishing it someday to help others understand. I will be retiring in a few months and will continue working on the book.

For more information on Prostate Cancer, visit American Cancer Society’s website at the following link…  http://www.cancer.org/cancer/prostatecancer/index



Donald Trump for President. Really?

When I think of a “profile of attributes” for a presidential candidate, and I hope most sane people will concur, I think:  Intelligent, well-spoken, well-educated, constitutional scholar, diplomatic, thorough understanding of how the U.S. Government works, understands the importance and impact of foreign policies, puts country first – before politics, open-minded, calm and level-headed, has compassion for others, and will be a true President for all the people of America.

If you compare my profile to our last couple of Presidents, I believe Barrack Obama fits the profile; George W. Bush – not so much.

Starting in March, 2015, the Republicans put forth seventeen of their supposedly best and brightest candidates, the largest number of presidential candidates for any political party in American history. Lest you forget who these “best and brightest” candidates were, let me remind you:  Ted Cruz, Jeb Bush, Ben Carson, Chris Christie, Carly Fiorina, Jim Gilmore, Lindsey Graham, Mike Huckabee, Bobby Jindal, John Kasich, George Pataki, Rand Paul, Rick Perry, Marco Rubio, Rick Santorum, Donald Trump, and Scott Walker.

After twelve so-called debates full of arguments, name calling, lying, back-stabbing, and penis size discussions; followed by numerous primaries; culminating with the Republican National Convention this week; the Republicans selected the “best and brightest” of their “best and brightest” candidates for President of the United States – Donald Trump.  Really?

If you compare Donald Trump to my presidential profile above, I believe he is a worse fit for President than George W. Bush was. I cannot match him to any of the attributes I listed. Truly, he is the antithesis of my presidential profile.

Let’s look at his personal attributes and character that have become obvious during the past year:

  • He is “all about me” (I am Trump – hear me roar – I am rich)
  • He is greedy and selfish
  • He is a classic bully and blow-hard
  • He is hateful and disrespectful
  • He is an exploiter and manipulator
  • He is an agitator
  • He is thin-skinned, temperamental and revengeful
  • He is a liar, will say anything and makes things up
  • He considers everyone that’s not rich — a loser
  • He is unstable
  • He is a misogynist
  • He is a pure, unadulterated racist
  • He wants to be King – because he is an authoritarian and knows things

Now I don’t care if you are a Republican or Democrat, this is not the attributes and character of a potential President of the United States.

However, within the Republican base, he has picked up where Sarah Palin left off. Just say anything, no matter how delusional, demeaning, crude, wrong, or devoid of facts, and the Republican base will follow you. This week’s Republican National Convention proves this point.

Most political pundits agree his nomination acceptance speech was full of fear-mongering and painted a dark picture of America in decay, despair, and lawlessness. But he, the mighty Trump, can fix all this, because you know, he’s rich. His biggest promise is that he’s going to give the biggest tax cut in history. And when he does, just stand back and watch the jobs come pouring in. Yep, that old trickle-down theory still sells for Republicans. The “Donald” will not personally benefit from this huge tax cut, since he apparently doesn’t pay any taxes any way.

Of course, I could go on forever about Donald Trump and his shortcomings, no pun intended Donald, but I will leave that for future blogs.

I do not believe that Donald Trump is qualified to be running for President or any other public office. He is not legitimate. He just wants to put his big gold TRUMP sign on the White House.

Are You Smarter Than Our Senators, Cont’d

With the election year madness upon us, and watching how some candidate’s followers are willing to elect anyone that can make the most absurd statements and provide no solutions for any of our reality-based problems, I just have to re-post my post from this day one year ago. Nothing has changed…

When I was younger, and quite comfortable in my complacency, I had this utterly absurd notion that our government consisted of an august body of intellects and sages that worked diligently at the task of making our country work for the betterment of all.

How completely and utterly ignorant I was. Completely ignorant. Ignorant (and trusting) to the point of stupidity. Whew !

I realize now that my image of Washington could not have been further from that fantasy than it was possible to have been.

Our government, I now see with clarity, consists of a group of racist, bumbling, buffoons, who’s number one goal is to pander to those that hold the purse strings, and “The People” be damned. Especially the little people.

It’s astonishing that given a choice, there are people, and not just politicians, that would choose ignorance over enlightenment. And not just choose ignorance, but to be proud of the fact that they’re ignorant.

I mean ignorance is simply the lack of knowledge, and I can forgive a person for that, but to be willfully ignorant enters another realm altogether, and I call that stupidity. And I do not have a tolerance for stupidity.

Written by “Some Dude in AK”.

As I was searching through my blog notes file, I found this short article above that I had saved. I don’t know when it was actually written but I saved it back in 2011. As I read it again I just had to laugh. This “Some Dude in AK” said it perfectly. I believe a majority of the American people are like this guy was initially in his thoughts about our government, before he had his epiphany.

Time to Shut Up the Republicans on the Impact of Social Security on the Deficit

Since the Republicans consider Social Security as just another “Government give away“, they continue to promise and pledge to fight to reduce it in order to lower the deficit. How long and how many times have we heard this argument from the Republicans.

It is now time to shut them up, once and for all, by letting their anointed Republican god, Ronald Reagan, explain the impact that Social Security has on the deficit…

For all the “Know it All’s”

I am amazed how many times I overhear and/or am told by some “know it all” that your way is wrong and theirs is the best and only path. Whether it is about business, finances, how to raise children, religion, politics, and on and on…

I came across this Hindu Proverb that fits perfectly in these situations where the “know it all” is pontificating their superior knowledge or idea.

Paths up the mountain

Top 10 Reasons to Vote Republican

This post may not sit well with some people, especially those not a attuned to living within the realms of reality. These 10 reasons could very well be 20, 30, maybe 50, but I think these 10 reasons pretty well sums it up.

vote Republican

Credit – Reddit.com

Re-post from DailyKos.com | September 25, 2015 | by plf515

Why would anyone vote Republican? Well, here are 10 reasons.

1. You are a bigot

It’s true that not all Republicans are bigots. But if you ARE a bigot, the Republican party will be much more your group than the Democratic party. Remember that there are lots of ways to be a bigot: You could be a racist, a homophobe, an Islamophobe, or lots of other things.

2. You like eating, drinking and breathing poison.

Many Republicans are calling for or voting for shrinking or eliminating agencies that protect us against poison. They seem to think that the corporations will do the right thing, without any pressure from the government. Uh huh. Read The Jungle.  Look at the way Monsanto is hiding facts about Round Up. Look at food safety and outbreaks of E. Coli.

Corporations exist to make money. They will do so any way they can. The government needs to stop them from doing so in ways that hurt people.

3. You think the rich don’t have enough money

The idea that giving more money to rich people (via tax breaks) will help poor people is nonsensical and has been shown wrong time and again in history. Huge tax breaks for the rich (a la George Bush) don’t work.

4. You don’t support our veterans

The Iraq and Afghanistan Veteran’s Association (IAVA) rates every member of congress on how well they support our veterans.  In the Senate, 9 people got A or A+: All were Democrats. 30 got D or F: 29 Republicans and one Democrat.

5. You like big deficits

Since the end of WW II the ratio of debt to GDP for the nation has gone down in 9 administrations (3 Republican and 6 Democratic) and up in 7 administrations (6 Republican and 1 Democratic).  The largest increases by this measure were GW Bush’s 2nd term; GHW Bush, and Reagan’s first term. The largest decreases were the three terms right after the end of WWII (Truman and Eisenhower). The last decrease under a Republican was in Eisenhower’s 2nd term

6. You don’t believe in free speech.

The American Civil Liberties Union is the premier defender of our civil liberties, including the right to free speech.  That’s free speech for EVERYONE; from Nazis to Marxists to Fred Phelps to anyone else. They rate politicians, including governors, senators and representatives.  12 people got a 100 rating: All were Democrats. 65 people got a score of less than 10: All were Republicans. Only 6 Democrats got a score under 50 (Joe Donnelly,  Michael Ross, Collin Peterson, Joseph Shuler, Mark Critz and David Boren). Only 2 Republicans got scores over 50 (Olympia Snowe and Mark Kirk)  Full list

7. You like big government

The Republicans like to claim they are against big government. It’s a lie. They only object when government helps people. But they are supporters of the Patriot Act; they want the government to say who you can marry; they want the government to forbid abortion; they want the government to be able to spy on you without restraint. Unfortunately, many Democrats agree with them on some of these, but to find opposition to these big government ideas, you have to look to the Democrats.

8. You want government to hurt people, but not help them

This is really just a summation of some other points.

9. You are greedy, short sighted and rich

You really have to be all three for this to work.

If you’re rich but not short-sighted, you know that, in the long run, when there is huge income inequality, it leads to things like stock market crashes and revolution, and everyone loses.  In a revolution, it is often the rich who lose most.

If you’re rich but not greedy, you recognize that helping others is a good thing, and that the government assuring that people have a safety net is a good thing as well.

10. You like torture

The Democrats don’t exactly shine here, but the Republicans are much worse.  It was, after all, Dick Cheney who bragged in his memoir about being a war criminal. It was Don Rumsfeld who opined that a problem in Abu Ghraib was that they weren’t torturing prisoners enough.  And it is mostly Democrats who have objected to torture.

Torture is wrong.  It’s also stupid. It doesn’t work. People who are tortured will say ANYTHING (true or not) that they thing their torturers want to hear.

Feel free to comment with your own thoughts or reasons.